“In states where fewer wives have paid jobs, divorce rates tend to be higher.”

But your “thrilled” when your husband doesn’t have a “paid job”? Why is it if your husband doesn’t have a “paid job” it’s thrilling, but when women don’t have paid jobs, they’re heading for divorce?

“support a more egalitarian relationship”

You’re in favor of egalitarian relationships, but your husband being dependent on you is thrilling? How does your husband staying at home different from a woman staying at home? How do you define “egalitarian relationship”? You’re stating that women who don’t have “paid jobs” are in non-egalitarian relationships and are more likely to divorce. Yet your husband not having a paid job is “thrilling.” Surely your husband being financially dependent on you is not “egalitarian.” And surely his not having a “paid job” made you more likely to divorce just as you’re saying that other marriages involving a spouse who does not have a “paid job” made them more likely to divorce.

“I am proud of setting the stage for my daughter.”

By that I assume you mean you would like to see your daughter become a stay at home mom, rather than have a “paid job” just like your husband? Wouldn’t you be thrilled?

I am thrilled when people–men and women– are able to do things in their lives that make them happy and feel productive. A job isn’t necessarily a prescription for happiness. I know many happy women who chose to stay home and be moms. I also know many women who worked and were miserable. Feminists didn’t “insist” women should have careers. They simply wanted women to have options. I’m not encouraging anyone to stay at home because my husband did. Everyone should choose what works best for him or her.

I was thrilled when my husband stayed home because that’s what he wanted to do and I agreed. I am proud of setting the stage for my daughter.

Geri

Why were you thrilled with your husband not having his own career? Are you also thrilled when women stay at home?