Comments on: Vanity, thy name is not FOF

By: Geri

Geri — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 21:46:11 +0000

you make a wonderful point, toby, about women not wanting help.

Geri

By: Toby Wollin

Toby Wollin — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 18:59:49 +0000

I lost my hearing as the result of having babies, so I’ve been wearing increasingly powerful hearing aids for about 25 years and now that I’ve gone into menopause, it’s changed again. I think women have the tendency to not admit to these sorts of things because it would mean that people have to go out of their way for them, to make allowances for them and I think women feel that they don’t really have the right to ask for that. I know the first time I asked for a booster for my phone, I thought I was going to lose my job. We have to get beyond that.

By: Kirin

Kirin — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 16:47:13 +0000

YES! So true,Maravonda, I had to get over myself too. When you’re hearing goes it is not the time to act foolish, get yourself outfitted with best equipment you can afford, adjust your hairstyle if you must but get it done! Such a waste of time and an annoyance to everyone I’m sure,saying what? pardon me? at every turn, Could kick myself now for having been so stubborn.

By: Geri

Geri — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 15:47:01 +0000

Hi Maravonda,

LOL at your last sentence. Agree on all counts.

Geri

By: Maravonda

Maravonda — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 15:33:55 +0000

Thank you for saying this! I, too, could not understand why our mothers preferred to be in a fog than hear what was happening around them. Maybe it was because old hearing aides were large and unattractive? I don’t know. But pretending this (aging) isn’t happening is certainly not any way for me to deal with it. I admit that at 54 I am frequently mad as hell at the cosmos for the things that are happening to my body and appearance these days. But better to take each thing as it comes and find a way to laugh at it and move on. Saying “WHAT?” 400 hundred times a day would only be funny for so long!

By: g

Fri, 22 Jan 2010 02:55:21 +0000

Yep, I’m with you. Although I totally understand the reluctance – it’s a form of denial. I am still in denial that my knees will only get worse, never better. I am still in denial that my eyesight will never improve.

One thing I hope I will never do and that’s to start being afraid.

doesn’t Jodi look fantastic? Damn.