Comments on: We’re not getting married in the morning http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/ Celebrating Women of Style and Substance Tue, 07 Feb 2012 18:41:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Geri Brin http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-2/#comment-537 Geri Brin Thu, 14 Jan 2010 23:10:40 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-537 Hi Mimi, Let's have a contest when FOF goes live. You will be one of the judges. oxo Hi Mimi,

Let’s have a contest when FOF goes live. You will be one of the judges.

oxo

]]> By: Geri Brin http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-2/#comment-536 Geri Brin Thu, 14 Jan 2010 23:09:55 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-536 Hi Mimi, Let's have a contest when FOF goes live. You will be one of the judges. (I do like lover man :) oxo Hi Mimi,

Let’s have a contest when FOF goes live. You will be one of the judges. (I do like lover man :)

oxo

]]> By: mimi http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-2/#comment-535 mimi Thu, 14 Jan 2010 18:41:59 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-535 I share a very similar situation. My guy and I have been committed and living together for about 8 years. We are both mid 50's and have both been married before. For various reasons we do not intend to remarry, one being financial. Do I miss not being married? Yes, at times, but most of the time, no. I do have a ring he gave me several birthdays ago which I cherish, but it is not an engagement ring. More of a promise to be true. What do we call one another? Ha! We have tried them all; boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, better half, partner, companion and jokingly lover man and lover woman. Funny, how nothing ever sounds right. Why can't we find the right description? If you find one, please let us know! I share a very similar situation. My guy and I have been committed and living together for about 8 years. We are both mid 50′s and have both been married before. For various reasons we do not intend to remarry, one being financial. Do I miss not being married? Yes, at times, but most of the time, no. I do have a ring he gave me several birthdays ago which I cherish, but it is not an engagement ring. More of a promise to be true.

What do we call one another? Ha! We have tried them all; boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, better half, partner, companion and jokingly lover man and lover woman.

Funny, how nothing ever sounds right. Why can’t we find the right description? If you find one, please let us know!

]]> By: Geri http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-2/#comment-524 Geri Wed, 13 Jan 2010 22:28:53 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-524 Hi Nancy, Good question. I haven't, because I guess I'm old fashioned in that sense. :) If you were willing to have him move in now, do you think he would? If the answer is yes, I'd ask surely propose to him. It makes me happy that you love the blog. Fondly, Geri Hi Nancy,

Good question. I haven’t, because I guess I’m old fashioned in that sense. :)

If you were willing to have him move in now, do you think he would? If the answer is yes, I’d ask surely propose to him.

It makes me happy that you love the blog.

Fondly,
Geri

]]> By: Nancy http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-2/#comment-523 Nancy Wed, 13 Jan 2010 21:16:47 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-523 Just wondering if you ever considered asking him? I am in a 3+ year r'ship and it is very much as you describe yours. We 'get' each other and it's just a wonderful r'ship. However, I still have one child at home and it will be at least 3 more years before he is gone. I am rather old-fashioned in this one area - I don't want to live together while I still have a minor child. We fully intend to live together later but at our age (we're both 55) I hate wasting one more minute living apart. My 'beau' (giggle - thought I would use a really old-fashioned term because like you, I struggle with what to call him) feels the same way but seems afraid to ask me to marry him so, I'm thinking about asking him. Great blog, BTW - I enjoy it daily! Just wondering if you ever considered asking him? I am in a 3+ year r’ship and it is very much as you describe yours. We ‘get’ each other and it’s just a wonderful r’ship. However, I still have one child at home and it will be at least 3 more years before he is gone. I am rather old-fashioned in this one area – I don’t want to live together while I still have a minor child. We fully intend to live together later but at our age (we’re both 55) I hate wasting one more minute living apart. My ‘beau’ (giggle – thought I would use a really old-fashioned term because like you, I struggle with what to call him) feels the same way but seems afraid to ask me to marry him so, I’m thinking about asking him.

Great blog, BTW – I enjoy it daily!

]]> By: Helen Kenney-Poore http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-522 Helen Kenney-Poore Wed, 13 Jan 2010 19:01:08 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-522 We've been to many, but we love Our Lucaya in Freeport Bahamas. It's easy to get to, not too many people, great restaurants and nice people who, over the years, have become great friends. We’ve been to many, but we love Our Lucaya in Freeport Bahamas. It’s easy to get to, not too many people, great restaurants and nice people who, over the years, have become great friends.

]]> By: Geri http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-521 Geri Wed, 13 Jan 2010 18:01:13 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-521 Hi Helen, You paint such a beautiful image. What IS your favorite tropical destination? We love Turks & Caicos. fondly, geri Hi Helen,

You paint such a beautiful image. What IS your favorite tropical destination? We love Turks & Caicos.

fondly,
geri

]]> By: Helen Kenney-Poore http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-520 Helen Kenney-Poore Wed, 13 Jan 2010 17:39:15 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-520 I felt exactly the same way. I even wonder if one of the reasons we actually got married after 10 years was so we could have a name for each other! Boyfriend...too old for that, partner...too cold, fiance...stupid, significant other...too 90's. There was no ring, no proposal (really, at our age should this not be a mutual decision, not one waiting for the other to say a few words that will change our lives?). No, we just decided to go on vacation and it seemed like the right timing. Just the 2 of us, on a beach at our favorite tropical destination. Really looking forward to the website. Thanks! I felt exactly the same way. I even wonder if one of the reasons we actually got married after 10 years was so we could have a name for each other! Boyfriend…too old for that, partner…too cold, fiance…stupid, significant other…too 90′s. There was no ring, no proposal (really, at our age should this not be a mutual decision, not one waiting for the other to say a few words that will change our lives?). No, we just decided to go on vacation and it seemed like the right timing. Just the 2 of us, on a beach at our favorite tropical destination. Really looking forward to the website. Thanks!

]]> By: lady jicky http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-516 lady jicky Wed, 13 Jan 2010 04:59:39 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-516 mmmm - let me think how to explain --- something that is soooo cute its sickening! LOL mmmm – let me think how to explain — something that is soooo cute its sickening! LOL

]]> By: Geri http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-513 Geri Wed, 13 Jan 2010 01:12:52 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-513 LOL Lady Jicky. What does twee mean? G LOL Lady Jicky. What does twee mean?

G

]]> By: lady jicky http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-512 lady jicky Wed, 13 Jan 2010 00:50:28 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-512 I do not know if its said in your part of the world but alot of people will say "this is my partner such and such" --- this to me sounds twee too! Like the person is a solicitor / lawyer! LOL As to getting married - hell, if it isn't broke , why fix it! I do not know if its said in your part of the world but alot of people will say “this is my partner such and such” — this to me sounds twee too! Like the person is a solicitor / lawyer! LOL

As to getting married – hell, if it isn’t broke , why fix it!

]]> By: Geri http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-510 Geri Tue, 12 Jan 2010 17:21:13 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-510 Hi Kari, Thank you, my dear. Geri Hi Kari,

Thank you, my dear.

Geri

]]> By: Kari http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-509 Kari Tue, 12 Jan 2010 16:04:09 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-509 Great post! My husband and I have been married for nearly 27 years and many people do not understand our independence, separate interests and yet our strong togetherness. You described it perfectly, whether married or not is not the point. Great post! My husband and I have been married for nearly 27 years and many people do not understand our independence, separate interests and yet our strong togetherness. You described it perfectly, whether married or not is not the point.

]]> By: Geri http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-508 Geri Tue, 12 Jan 2010 13:56:57 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-508 Thank you! Thank you!

]]> By: Maravonda http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-507 Maravonda Tue, 12 Jan 2010 13:55:25 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-507 Great post! Maravonda Great post!

Maravonda

]]> By: Greet http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-506 Greet Tue, 12 Jan 2010 11:36:34 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-506 Geri, Happiness does not depend on getting marrried or not! If you feel good together as you are, so don't worry! There is no difference. xxx Greet Geri,
Happiness does not depend on getting marrried or not! If you feel good together as you are, so don’t worry! There is no difference.
xxx
Greet

]]> By: Geri http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-505 Geri Tue, 12 Jan 2010 02:36:36 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-505 Hi Judith, You're welcome. I'm glad you liked it. Where is your shop? I love your photos. Geri Hi Judith,

You’re welcome. I’m glad you liked it. Where is your shop? I love your photos.

Geri

]]> By: Judith http://blog.faboverfifty.com/2010/01/11/were-not-getting-married-in-the-morning/comment-page-1/#comment-504 Judith Tue, 12 Jan 2010 02:04:34 +0000 http://blog.faboverfifty.com/?p=2542#comment-504 I have so many friends in the same position and you've articulated it very well. Life at this age should be enjoyed together without all of the "shoulds" we used to worry about. Thanks for sharing. Judith I have so many friends in the same position and you’ve articulated it very well. Life at this age should be enjoyed together without all of the “shoulds” we used to worry about.
Thanks for sharing.
Judith

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